Tuesday, 22 November 2011

Being in the moment

Argh lately things have been hectic.

As you know both boys have had chicken pox, and Lucas got it bad. Then it became ear ache and so of course we said hello to numerous and epic tantrums throughout the day. I've found it hard to juggle everything with a little boy that wants nothing more than to be held all day long. I've had to let things go, particularly housework. Even without sick kids I find it hard to get everything thing done. So with all this time sitting around holding and soothing Mr tantrum I got to thinking about mindfulness. Awareness of myself and what I'm doing. Whatever I'm doing, just being completely present in that moment. Including as I've had to do the last 2 weeks, letting unimportant things go and focusing completely on the boys.

So often I try to multitask (poorly I might add) so I'm only half focused on them at times. Kid on my hip while I check emails/answer phone calls. Saying over and over 'hang on, in minute...' while I quickly clean something. I'm often half focused on everything I do which I'm sure doubles how long it takes me to actually do it. Maybe it's about stopping trying to control/juggle/everything. Accept it as it is. Observe it like you would observe changes in the weather. Do what you can with complete focus while ditching guilt about what you can't do. This of course is not always possible. But sometimes it is. And it's amazing what you notice when you stop and focus...
So much there waiting to be seen...
So much to drink in...
Little moments that get to happen because you are there completely...
 Taking the time to play like you did as a kid...
To watch them try something...
Because all this will go so fast...
Seems to me that a lot (not all) of these tantrums go when I stop everything
 and just pay attention to this little one...
 And this one is a bit happier and better behaved 
when I stop saying 'hang on...' and just join in...

Do what is important, screw the rest, it can wait...


  1. The little one looks so cute stapped into his little backpack!! And his little sandals!!

    You have some adorable children. Hope ya'll had a good time!

  2. I think everyone needs to take a leaf outta your book Sian... And chill a little more. I know I'm guilty of halfhearted attention sometimes to my son and then I wonder where the time went. It's so important to live in the moment and appreciate the time we have with each other. Quality rather than quantity too... I'm putting my camera down more and just trying to walk with my son Nathan appreciating life rather than saying "just hang on Nathan whilst I take this shot" Sometimes it feels like I wasn't even on the walk because I was viewing it through a camera lens.
    I know I will never regret not doing the washing but I would regret not really talking with my partner or not listening properly to my sons day at school.
    Super BIG tree shots and family time... Good for you. Hope everyone is feeling well again. :-)

  3. So true Sian! This was beautifully written and so thoughtful! These pictures are wonderful!

  4. TY for this post... Sick kids are a nightmare. Mia just got over teething but another looks like is pushing through. So here we go...

  5. This is where I want to be. This is where I always plan to be until the dishes pile up and the floor needs cleaning and the emails need checking and the groceries need buying.
    Starting tomorrow I will be mindful with my son even if it's only for a half an hour. Thanks for the reminder.

  6. I love those family photos!
    And how true - we must focus on what is important and let the other things wait!
    I think my favorite photo is your little one with that huge tree stump.
    Mississippi, USA

  7. Love the pictures. Kids in sand pictures always turn out to be awesome memory nuggets in time.

  8. Oh my gosh! The little backpack kills me!